A lot of Un Christian beliefs and practices cause people to leave the Church and even Christianity. It is a real shame. Many people leave the SDA church because of unchristian behaviors and traditions in the church. I could mention many. Putting down an entire gender of people just because they are women is an unChristian tradition in my humble opinion.
I would deny that following the Bible's instruction about men being the leaders in the church is a put-down of women, just like I would deny that the male being the head of the woman in the home is a put down of women. Each gender has an important role in both the home and in the church but their roles are different. Wouldn't you agree that God made the husband to be the head of the home? If we read both the Bible as well as Ellen White, I don't see how we can come to any other conclusion because it is stated in as clear a way as possible. Eph. 5:23.
More emphasis should be placed on teaching and urging husbands to be loving and considerate of their wives, and if this was done, no doubt more women would accept the role God planned for them. Too many men don't love their wives as Christ loved the church, nor do they always love their wives as they do their own bodies, which is what the Bible tells men to do. Maybe that is one of the major reasons some women feel it is demeaning for the husband to be in the leadership position both in the church and in the home. My mother did not feel this way, however, and neither did my grandmothers, nor my sisters.
However ... I do not leave the church over the issue . I am not sure which evil practice in the church has caused Robert to leave but I am sad about it. I think that if he was in the church it would only help God's cause. One sin of the organized church is that there is not enough dialogue and honesty. Honest feelings are not encouraged. They want you to hold and protect the company line.
I agree that there needs to be honesty and freedom to discuss. We certainly have that freedom here, and I'm personally thankful for this opportunity. But yes, there needs to be more honest discussion of these things in other forums. I appreciate your willingness to discuss it and your honesty.
I will give you an example of the company line. The issue of the second coming ... When I look at it ... the Second Coming has already come and gone. Yet, all the Adventists continue the tradition of looking for the second coming. I guess they can't count.
OK, I read your explanation of this view that you have, saying the fifth coming of Christ will be when He comes in glory to take His followers to heaven. I suppose if you want to call it the fifth coming, it is all right, but you only cause people to be confused about what you mean when you insist on calling the Second Coming the fifth coming.
Another example is the tradition of Rebaptism. There is no Biblical support for this tradition. The only example is one when the First Baptism was not of the Holy Spirit. Now ... we are baptized with the Spirit so there should be no need for rebaptism. WELL ... I could go on and on with SDA traditions. But, the point is that even though I don't like the unBiblical traditions of our church ... I don't leave it. I try to support the correct teaching.
I think you have the right idea by staying with the church and trying to correct what you believe are errors. I would just say here, though, that the concept of re-baptism is not merely an SDA tradition. A case could be made for it from the Bible and you will find other Christian churches that practice re-baptism. But I agree that it is something we should study and discuss. Have you discussed this with your pastor, church elders and others?
I am thankful for this forum as a place of dialogue. I would fault no one for Any belief they have. It is the job of the Holy Spirit to convict and if we are not seeing things alike then we can only blame the Holy Spirit.
I can't agree with that, but I see what you mean. The Holy Spirit does work on hearts and minds to teach truth but people are often not listening or don't want to do what the Holy Spirit is telling them. Remember, the Holy Spirit speaks to us through God's word, the Bible, and even though the Bible is clear and plain, there is little unity about what the Bible teaches. That is not the fault of either the Bible or the Holy Spirit. That is the fault of people. There are various reasons for it, but let us not blame God or the Holy Spirit or the Bible. For one thing, it is not necessary for all of us to agree in all details about everything. Some of the differences don't matter and too much is made of some of those differences. God made all of us with different minds and we all come from difference backgrounds and experiences, so some of the differences are a reflection of that. However, there should be unity and the same thinking and speaking on clear Bible teachings. There shouldn't be the divisions and dissensions among us that are seen today. I think there needs to be more prayer and Bible study on that subject. Ellen White had a lot to say about it as well and it is something we all need to try to put into practice.
And since my wisdom is not as great as the Spirit's ... I can only assume that it is not important for me to believe the same way as Robert for example.
Well, I am sure that he would be the first to tell you he doesn't want you to agree with him just because of his say-so. I certainly wouldn't. What's important is that we reflect seriously on what our Christian brothers and sisters are saying, and if we see that they are teaching something that agrees with the Bible, we should agree with them about it. Sometimes I get the impression on CA that some people like to argue just to be disagreeing and to be arguing. We should try to find points of agreement and emphasize those more, I believe.
The only belief that I really must understand is the sacrifice that Jesus made for me. If I understand and accept that ... then I am on the right side of God.
God Bless each of you while we celebrate the Birth of our Savior.
MERRY CHRISTMAS
Actually I do agree that that is the most important thing, but I think there are a few more Bible doctrines, or teachings, that are also important for us as a church to have agreement on. I am studying the book,
Seventh-day Adventists Believe, which goes over the 27 or 28 major doctrines of the SDA church, and I am studying it with my wife and children. My wife speaks Spanish, so it is interesting to study it in both Spanish and English. I am finding it very exciting to study these teachings. I haven't found anything so far that I disagree with in that book. We also enjoy studying the books,
Bible Readings and
The Great Controversy. My wife was Catholic not too many years ago and most of her extended family still is. But she's already begun studying the Bible with several of her sisters! She became SDA by reading books and magazines that I left around the house and then attending the Spanish-speaking church. We thank and praise God every day for the Adventist church and its beautiful teachings.
A Merry and blessed Christmas to you, too!!!