#118596 - 03/31/07 04:06 AM
Re: heart attack
[Re: bevin]
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Facing each day one step at a time
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Your mother is going to need a lot of support for about a year - there is all the winding down of the estate, the learning to do things she has not done before, and the loss of a full time friend. The first few weeks are actually the easy ones because there are things to do and people actively helping - it is the months after that, when her previous life has been destroyed and her new life has not yet been built, that are hard.
pps: Over the next year, make sure you remember the important dates - birthday, wedding, death, funeral - your mother will especially value your contact on these days I totally agree Bevin. It has been nearly 2 years since my own beloved father passed away and I can honestly say that while my mother has done quite well, she is EXTREMELY lonely. She admitted this past Thanksgiving that she was lonely and that was huge for her. I wish there was something in our area that was geared for our seniors to be able to get to gether a couple of times a week, if only to socialize! But overall, I am very proud of the way she has handled things since Daddy died and I agonize that I wish I could do more to help her combat her loneliness. Pam, we're still praying for you and your family. It's been an emotional week with what you've been going thru and my co-worker's father dying and then we found out that one of our cousins passed away. Golly, I sure hate this aspect of our existence but I know we must go thru it. It has really brought into focus this weeks Sabbath School lesson where it is stated "Without God life makes no sense...Without the answer to death, there's no answer to life, and that answer is found only in Jesus, who beat death and with that victory offers us what do can't get anywhere else." {{{{{{{{{{{{{{PAM}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Hugs and Prayers Puddly
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#118720 - 04/01/07 12:41 AM
Re: heart attack
[Re: Stan Jensen]
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Registered: 01/15/05
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I came late into this thread.
I pray with four 80 year old saint ladies every wednesday night.
Pam and your family will be at the top of the list.
God bless u
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#118783 - 04/01/07 07:53 AM
Re: heart attack
[Re: Nan]
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Registered: 03/19/05
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Dear Pam,
I am very sorry to hear of the events in your life these last few days. I am struggling to express sympathy and support, and I am not doing a good job, I fear. Please know that I, too, am holding you and your family dear in heart and prayer during this time. I struggle with being a part of the hospital process in transferring folks in your dad's situation to hospice care on an almost daily basis. Just want you to know that it is not easy to be on the other side of this process. Hospice is a really good thing altho not what anyone envisions for their loved ones. Please keep us updated as you are able to.
Morning Glory
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#118786 - 04/01/07 08:11 AM
Re: heart attack
[Re: Morning Glory]
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stumbling to the cross
Registered: 07/16/05
Posts: 1883
Loc: in the mists of time
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My dad died about 4 hours ago. I'd been with him about 18 hrs overnight and most of the morning, and had gone home to sleep for a bit since my brother and mom got there.... couldn't sleep so went back to the hospice. Dad died about 10 minutes after I got back to him.
Thank you all SO much for the prayers and encouraging and helpful thoughts you put here. I think I'm in shock. Too much, too fast. I'm the rock of Gibraltar for others during a crisis like this, but in a few days I crumble.
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Pam Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.~ Abraham Lincoln ~
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#118787 - 04/01/07 08:16 AM
Re: heart attack
[Re: rudywoofs]
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Registered: 09/13/03
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oh Pam I'm so so so sorry!!!! You are in my prayers. God shares your sorrow.
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#118789 - 04/01/07 08:24 AM
Re: heart attack
[Re: archierieus]
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Registered: 10/24/06
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You are in my prayers and hope you will find peace in knowing God is at your side throughout these times of suffering and loss.
annie
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#118797 - 04/01/07 03:54 PM
Re: heart attack
[Re: Nan]
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Registered: 09/04/02
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Loc: New England
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You are allowed to crumble
See God treated Elijah when he crumbled and ran away after Mt Camel - God nursed him, not condemned him
/Bevin
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#118799 - 04/01/07 04:33 PM
Re: heart attack
[Re: bevin]
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Craftsman
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Pam, may the God of all comfort wrap His loving arms around you right now. He shares your sorrow.
Dave
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