My dad had a heart attack last night (sunday) about 8pm. Completely unexpected. I was in the ER/ICU with him until after midnight along with my mom. It happened outside and he was in full arrest - not breathing, no pulse - for about 10-15 minutes. Paramedics got his heart going again, and he was trying to breathe on his own..

I just came back from the ICU. He is on a ventilator for breathing, and they are only giving him insulin for his diabetes and fluids to keep the volume up. And they put a feeding tube down. But he is unresponsive....comatose. Can't hear me. Doesn't respond to pain.. Nothing.

I've been so stressed out about my work situation and other things that I hadnt' gone over to see my folks for several weeks. Now it is too late.

I cant even ask for prayer for him. I am a horrible daughter.

Please, people, if you have family, please...go visit. If there's a schism, make amends - even if it wasn't your fault. Tell your friends and family that you love them.

Please...

i'm so sorry, Pam. And you do give good advice.

Thank you, Pam, for posting this! May your father be at peace, may YOU be at peace, and my God be glorified in this situation.

More later... will lift your whole family up in prayer as well as the doctors. If it be your father's time, I pray that God's peace can help you all feel so.

Dear Father, we lift up Pam's father to You, because he cannot pray for himself. We bear Pam up, her mother, her whole family, before You, for Whom death has no sting or no power. We ask for Your mercy to be on this family, for You are merciful. As the shepherd leads his flock to green pastures and beside still waters, so we pray that this might be the experience of Pam's father and the family.

Sometimes it is hard to rest in Your care, Lord, especially if we feel that there has to be something that we should or could have done. But You give us no more burden than to live each day and trust in You. We lift all in this situation into Your hands, for it is all we can do at this time.

Thank you, dear Father and dear Son- Amen

Pam, you might think that you are a horrible daughter. I don't know that, but I know that you are a much loved member here.

Please keep us updated

Pam, my father cardiac arrested about 13 years ago - was brought back by CPR (started after about 2 min) and defib (after 10 min). You would not know it to look at him now - fully active and 100% there mentally - but it did take 24h before he was conscious again and several days before he was fully with-it, and a good year to fully recover.

Even if your dad did not get CPR, 10 min is not a long "down time" and is not long enough to guarantee any loss of brain function. He may well recover, like my dad, with only the loss of a few days memory.

Earlier this year I have revived a woman from a cardiac arrest, who arrested while I was starting my examination of her. Both her and dad reported that the attack itself was so fast it was painless - neither had any memory of it, and I know they both went instantly unconscious, like watching someone fall asleep.

Honestly, his case is in God's hands. That is where you and your family are also. The medical profession will do their bit, and nature will to.

Don't try to predict the outcome, and don't worry about your dad - put your energy into supporting your mom.

/Bevin

Pam you are not a horrible daughter and I am sure your mother is finding great support in having you there now.

I will not add to the other great comments here, but I will pray for you all.

Oh Pam.... I know how horrible this is for you and mama... It is so frightening. I've lived through this with my husband 3 times.

Praying for you my dear friend.



The wires, machines, and tubes all seem to combine to make our loved one look even more helpless... But Pam, I believe he might be able to hear you, even if he can't respond. Mike could hear me... even though he could never respond, he could hear me... and he told me after the fact (years after!) that hearing my voice in the darkness of where he seemed to be was comforting. Don't give up my friend, Jesus is there too, and with you and your papa. Trust Him.



Listen to me!!!! You are NOT a horrible daughter. That is a lie of the evil one! You are human, with a life, who cares deeply about her parents and family. But you are also an adult, who lives her life, and who has been struggling herself. I'm certain, absolutely certain, that your mama has taken comfort from you being there now in this most critical of times. I took great comfort from my daughter being there when I needed her the most.

You can always ask for prayer. There is never anything to stop you from praying or asking for prayer except a lie from the evil one that he, and he alone, wants you to believe.



Excellent advice my dear. Excellent advice... we never know how much time we have or what this world will bring our way. But we do know that because it is filled with sin, and has fallen away from the government of Abba, that there will always be unpleasant, nasty surprises. And the Evil One is going to try and convince us that somehow it's all our fault... when in reality, it's HIS.

Clio

Praying Pam, I am praying!! Praying especially for a recovery for your father such that you might be able to have a moment when you can tell him how much you love him and whatever else your spirit needs to reveal to him.

Pam,

Please realize we're all praying for you, your daddy, your mother and whoever else that is close by in your family. Trust me, you are not a bad daughter, it's so easy to get sidetracked especially when "all is quiet on the home front" so to speak.

Just be there for both your mother and daddy, we'll be here for you. You are our sister...never forget this!

Hugs and prayers
Puddly

You and your family are in our prays.

pkrause