Sunday Evenings at 10:00pm Central Time

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This series features marriage and family educators who present Bible-based concepts which lead to a happy marriage and home life.

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Just a side note: I really like the set of this program. It is just so warm and cozy.

Tom and Alane Waters run >>> Restoration International <<<

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Note: Comments about this program are encouraged. Please let's not stray from the topic of this program. The idea of this thread is to be like a fan club of the program.

The topic tonight: Intimacy

The sexual act is just one aspect of intimacy. Intimacy is about learning how to be one together. It includes leaning each others likes, dislikes, preferences, sharing each others' joys, pains, successes and failures.

I Therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love ~ Eph. 4:1, 2

Forebearing means listening to each pther even when we don't want to. We need to get away from the "me" focus and get onto the "us" focus.

Intimacy is not very fulfilling when it is isolated to sex alone. It can actually become destructive when it is limited to sex.

Wives can help their husbands become more intimate in the other areas of marriage by recognizing that many struggle with this aspect of intimacy. They can complement the husband and be paitant with him when he is frustrated or angry. A wife can encourage her husband by how she responds to him.

Both need to work to create an environement of intimacy between them in the home. The two should work together. Husbands need to change gears when they come home from work to focus on thier wife. So when it is time to go to bed physical intimacy will be a natural part of the intimacy that has been taking place all evening.

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. ~John 13:34

Jesus commands us to love one another. Sometimes the love seems to have left a marriage. Yet we can still love one another if we decide to and make a commitment to do so. When a commitment is made and the time is spent to follow through, God will put the feelings in our hearts.

Husbands need to work hard at understanding their wives. They need to commit the time to do so. Wives likewise need to work hard to understand their husbands and commit the time to do so.

Tonight they are going through 1 Corintians 13 item by item and discussing what love is.

Tom made the comment that in the beginning of their marriage he was trying to fit Alane into his life but now she is the most important person to him. We need to get away from the "me" focus and onto the "us" focus.

I knew Tom from his (and my) old X-ray days in Hinsdale (Chicago). I saw Tom, Alane and children once a few years ago and I am convinced that they are a tight, committed family. I've seen several episodes of theirs on 3ABN and, although a show consisting of conversation only, I recommend their program.